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Be your own valentine, every day

Updated: Mar 7, 2021

Your greatest ever love story will be the one where you love yourself

A heart shaped amethyst crystal and a red rose

I was delighted to cause some controversy with one of my Instagram stories this week. Some of you were borderline outraged. I am of course sorry if I caused genuine upset, but I must stick to my beliefs nonetheless. I’ll say it one more time for those at the back…Rachel should have ended up with Joey!

Of all the love stories in Friends, theirs was the one that got me right in the feels. When he tells her he’s in love with her and she can’t say it back, man that broke me. Sometimes I can’t even watch that scene. To see Joey, the King of players, so vulnerable and scared. And he was prepared to push his feelings aside for the sake of his friendship with Ross. Come on, how could you not root for him?!

I know, I know, the whole thing centred on the Rachel/Ross will they/won’t they right from the start. And the audience demands closure blah blah blah. But Ross was in and out of relationships throughout, that dude was fickle. Rachel was Joey’s only true love.

A screen shot of my instagram story that claimed Rachel should have ended up with Joey instead of Ross at the end of Friends. The poll at the bottom asked for votes on Joey or Ross and the result was fifty-fifty.
The result of my Joey vs Ross poll

Also, I do appreciate it’s just a sitcom but half of you agreed with me (big up to the Joey crew) so I feel my quiet rage is justified.

Thank you to everyone who joined in. I bloody love being able to connect and interact with you through ‘the gram.’ It’s the equivalent of talking random shit with each other face to face, and that is one of my favourite things. Talking random shit with people equally happy to talk random shit. Hurrah!

Chatting about the things that don’t really matter, ironically really matters. It gives the brain a little holiday from being so serious and responsible. While your brain is kicking back with sunnies on, sipping a margarita, you get to just be you. Probably laughing. Definitely smiling.

And you, just being you, is a beautiful thing. I hope you know that. It took me a while to learn, but here I am, loving myself for all that I am and all that I am not. Sure, I’m not perfect (as Team Ross will attest) but I still love me.

Chris Hemsworth isn’t perfect but I still love him. Jokes. He is, of course, perfection.

We all deserve to be loved and taken care of. And the best person to do that, is ourselves. A lot of us don’t do it enough, I think we don’t know how.

So be ready for me to blow your minds…..IT’S THE SAME THINGS THAT WE DO AND SAY FOR EVERYONE ELSE WE LOVE.

· Are you getting enough fresh air?

· Let me run you a bath

· Maybe have an early night tonight?

· Don’t be so hard on yourself

· It’s ok to be sad today

· If you eat your veg, you can have the cake

Do these things sound familiar? Things you say to others daily? If you’re not already saying these to yourself, now is the time to start. Use the face mask, apply the foot cream, reward the broccoli and brisk walk with a jammie dodger.

A photo of a bath bomb in front of a running bath and a book on a bed with the caption "bath, book and early to bed is the perfect way to say I love me." This was my instagram post on valentines night.
My IG story from Valentine's night

Find the things that make you smile wider, laugh louder, breathe easier, and embrace them.

Those little twinkles of self-love will sit within you and start to shine. I like to think of it as a little coal fire in my belly, glowing with that romantic orangey hue.

Every walk, every bath, every time I make a healthy food choice or forgive myself the bad, it stokes the coal and keeps it burning. So then even on the harder days, I still have a belly full of love.

You are your forever companion. Love yourself. Take care of you. Be your own best Friend…….(see what I did there? Cue the music...)

Lyds, out x


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